Thanks Karen, Mom, Brandee, Nicole, Dani, Rebecca and Carly for helping me out with my "lying" project. Your answers were exactly what I was looking for.
The results:
All of us generally think that lying is a bad thing...but we ALL do it ALL the time.
I chose to do my project on this because I tend to get in trouble for being too honest/blunt a lot. If someone says or does something and they are in the wrong, I will let them know. I then become the bad guy. This has taught me to lie...because if I tell someone that they did something jerky, the table turns and I become the jerk...for being honest. For instance, I just recently went with Jake to a certain vampire movie where our seat neighbors were being very inconsiderate. Right as Jake and I were sitting down, the woman who was ahead of us on the stairs, and who was now in the same row as us counted past us and said, "Ooh, sorry. We need to save these six seats." So Jake and I, who were just about to sit down comfortably in pretty good seats had to move down SIX seats. Yay. I let her know I was frustrated (just by sighing and saying "sure" with a very unhappy tone) and she again apologized and said, "Sorry, I hate when people do that." First lie: she's not sorry. She got what she wanted. She's just saving face so she looks, at least, half way considerate. First truth that made me look like a jerk: she knows I want those seats and knows I'm upset that, even though we were almost sitting in them (and were there first), she had "called" them. Conclusion: I'm the jerk because she knows I'm upset... But, wait. She just inconsiderately and childishly called the good seats that Jake and I were getting ready to sit in...but I'm still the jerk. Mmk.
Then her little buddies come and sit down and then say, "Oh dude, so sorry but could you scoot down one more?" I looked at the high school aged kid and said, "Sure. But these seats are better." He then goes, "Yeah, I know...sorry." Second lie: do you
really think he's sorry? Really?? Second truth: we really were in better seats more toward the middle of the theater where you can see better...and we were now two seats away from the isle. And we were on time. And because I was honest, I'm the jerk.
I also got in trouble with some of my good friends because whenever they were being weird, I was the first one to confront the issue. Result: I'm the jerk again...even though I want to fix the problem. What the hell?
Confrontation = bad?? That is a load of sh#@ if you ask me.
This has taught me to lie in many, many situations. According to my research, this is something that everyone does ALL THE TIME!!
Seriously.
Say, for instance, that I decided to chop off all my hair and it looks horrendous. My friend can do the honest thing and say, "Yeah, you really should get extensions." Or she can say, "Aw, it looks good. It's a fun change. Plus, it'll grow back." Scenario number one, my friend is a b-word but she was honest. Scenario number two, my friend is dishonest but oh-so-sweet.
Where do we draw the line?
If you wanna know more facts or scenarios about lying, go ahead and ask...BUT I do have one more example which I thought was interesting and pretty funny.
Girls deceptively save their own face by saying something nice and even flattering about a girl they are talking bad about. I bet every single one of you has heard or said, "Oh man, she is so great, but she has horrible style," or "she is so cute and fun, but she is such a skanky flirt," or "she is so awesome, but I hate her."
Everyone lies.
The end.
