10.12.2012

Thoughts on swearing

Okay, fellow bloggers and readers. What are your thoughts on swearing around your kid?

I just went through some of my old posts...and my goodness. I've got the mouth (at least on paper) of a sailor. I promise I'm not that bad in person...but I do curse occasionally.

So, for those of you with "potty mouths," do you do it in front of your kids? How do you teach them not to say those things?

I majored in Communication and the last thing I want to do is give power to the word...BUT, because many of these words already have some sort of power in our culture, I don't want my child saying those things until he's at least 30 years old. Or ever.

And he's so innocent and sweet. I don't want him hearing them either.

So, how do I teach my child (I'm worrying about this prematurely...he's only 3.5 months old) that these words exist and that many of them carry powerful meaning in our culture (ooorrrr...just make you sound like Honey Boo Boo's family) but that he should never, ever say them?

*Sigh* Really, the whole point of this post is for me to tell you all that I'm improving my language. That's all.

10 comments:

Jessica said...

I can't believe you mentioned Honey Boo Boo. (I've seen every episode) -insert embarrassed face here

I think being Mormon zapped curse words out of my mind. I don't know if I'm afraid to use them now or I just don't think about it any more. I'm sure my kids will hear swearing every now and then at school or in public but as long as they're being respectful about the way they talk to other people I won't try to keep them in a bubble.

Erin said...

Haha I love that you watch that show! If I had cable, I'd most definitely be watching it.

I definitely don't want Jack in a bubble. I know when he's older he'll say what he wants, but he will most definitely learn about respecting other people (what to say to them, what to say around them...etc). Whether he chooses to heed my advice or not is another story.

Snarrs said...

Its funny you say that cause my mom would say shit whenever she dropped something or something bad happened when we were little and now what do you know....thats the swear word I use! All i know is kids pick up on things fast so if you don't want them saying something when they are young you better cut it out of your vocab!!

Erin said...

Caitlyn, I so agree with you. I don't think we give kids enough credit for how quickly they learn and how much they are able to absorb the first three years of their life.

rachfishop said...

LOL, as a (much) older Mum I'd say don't worry. 'Cos the way it goes is that you don't swear in front of them, so they don't learn bad words... and that totally works... right up until the very first day your innocent little 5-year-old goes to school and comes back swearing like a squaddy. But actually, by that age they're old enough to cotton on immediately that those aren't words you use in front of Grandma. And kids LOVE swear words so much! (I remember my 7yo son saying to me, "Mum, just think, life would be so rubbish if sports and swear words hadn't been invented!") So now, I've got a deal with the kids - I don't swear (except when driving, obviously) and in return they don't swear in front of grown-ups. Fair enough I think...

Jess n' Blake said...

I know Charli won't avoid hearing/learning swear words, especially when the hub's male family all swear, but I can control it in our house. She has already mimicked them, but luckily it was right after they swore and only once. I think teaching good vocabulary with better words to use for expression is how I'll go.

Jonas said...

I, as a person who used to work over water, still talk like I did when I worked on the docks. I however, have a switch that I am capable of flipping on/off when such language is deemed inappropriate. Like when I am talking with my wife, or any lady, I watch my mouth, its about respect, and now that I have a daughter it goes beyond that. I find myself switching the radio station, (I have XM so its un restricted) as to not have the vulgarity spewed from every outlet. But the occasional badword does get said in front of the grom, and that is life. We can protect them all we want, but out in the world, its pretty unfiltered, even back in good ol cache valley. Im pretty sure that douchebag will come out of the groms mouth sooner rather than later, but I will blame that on her mom. Cursing is not a gateway, and Im sure you dont drop the F bomb in casual conversation. Just dont let him watch telly tubbys, little bastards got dirty things being said I know it!

postmormongirl said...

I have problems with cursing around my nieces and nephews. As well as my uber-Mormon family, for that matter.

I find the more I try to suppress the swearing, the more of a nasty habit it becomes. I don't think you'll be able to completely avoid swearing around your kid but as long as you are mature about the matter, it will probably be fine.

Cognitive Dissenter said...

Yeah yeah. Just wait until your little angel is a f***ing teenager who thinks he knows more than you do and refuses to obey rules re. curfew. ; )

Erin said...

Rach, haha! I love that. I guess what I don't know can't hurt me, right?

Jess, Jack is already such a mimicker. I'm sure he'll say those words when he hears them. We're just going to be very clear about appropriateness :)

Jonas, firstly - there will be no telly tubbies in this house. Scary. Secondly, I like what you said about respect. It really is about respect. You don't say those things at inappropriate times, and you really should never say them if you're young...at least around your parents, as Rach said :) I totally had a mouth on me as an 8 year old. I grew out of it until my 20's. My brother in high school says plenty but he's appropriate about it. Meh. I guess we'll cross that bridge when we get there.

PMG, completely agree. Ultimately, regardless of what I teach him, he'll say exactly what he wants but if we set good examples for him (cliche term), he will hopefully learn to be respectful and mature about it.

CG, dude. I was just trying to make your life interesting. And in high school, I most definitely though I knew more than you did. The older I get, the less sure I am about that... :)